Habits and Mannerisms
Thought that I would add this Page to help others understand Stephen and why he does what he does.
Hand Under Your Chin; Palm Up = Positive. Meaning = Thank-You. I am Happy. or Please.
Hand Under Your Chin; Palm Down and Wiggles Fingers = Positive. Replaces 'Hand Under Your Chin-Palm Up' But it means that 'Extreemly'.
Fist (not Moving) on Chest; Positive. Meaning = I Missed You.
Grabs you around the Neck; Positive. Affectionate. Meaning = He's Consoleing You. (For whatever reason)
Grabs you around the Neck and Adds an Expression (Like Anger); Negative. (Look at Face for Mood). Meaning = Something is Wrong and you are not Understanding me. Stephen Never actually does any Physical Harm, His Grip is as light as when he is performing the Positive action.
Rubs the Top of Your Head; Positive. Affectionate. Meaning =
Sign Languages; Stephen can do the 'Yes' Sign when he wants something.
Making Choices; Stephen (If given the oppertunity) will Select several of what he wants. To determine what he really wants you first ask him to give you what he wants. He will Keep the one that he wants. Then Ask him for ALL of the Items, then Place all of the Items together and Tell Stephen what each is, and let him select from them. That's the one he really wanted in the first place.
Have to Go (Urinate); Starts out usually with Laughter for no reason. Wiggles. Crosses Legs. Bends Over. Hold his Penis.
Have to Go (Bowel Movement); Becomes Quiet. Bends Over. Becomes Upset for no apparent reason. Sometimes reaches for Butt.
Makes 'Piggy' Noise; Positive. Comfortable. He is Satisfied with his surroundings.
Makes Sounds (Communication); It may sound like he's Talking, but it's Unintelligable. Positive. Meaning = He is Happy.
Leans Against You; Positive. He is Comfortable with You.
Flapping His Arms; Positive. Meaning = I need to release Energy. (I know it's Scarry, especially when you are sitting right next to me, but I know where you are in relation to my Arms.) Started in 2009. Rubbing Head Alieviates this action.
HITTING; Negative. Meaning = Something is Extreemly Wrong with Me and You are Not Understanding me or Paying Attention to my Actions/Needs. (It is Never Condoned. To Resolve this, Change the Activity.)
Masturbation; Looks as though he has to have a B.M. because he leans over. He uses one of his Forearms to 'Rub' with. It takes a few minutes and looks like He's in
Outright Angry; Negative. Meaning = Something is Wrong! You are Not Understanding Me! Something in My Life is Amiss.
Crossed Eyes; Negative. Meaning =
Gives You a Toy; Positive. Meaning = Teach Me. Ask Me What/Who this is, Wait for a Response (3-5 seconds), Then Tell Me What/Who it is and Make a Noise that is Appropiate for the Toy.
Huggs; Positive. Meaning = I Love You. Thank-You. I'm Sorry.
Kisses; Positive. Meaning = I Love You (Dad or Mom).
Running Around; Positive. Meaning = I am Excited. I am Happy.
Lack of Appetite; Meaning = Growth Spurt. or Have to have a B.M.. or It's just too Hot to Eat or He is in Pain.
Cracking of Finger Knuckles; Recent Activity since August 2012. Unknown where he Actually picked this up from.
Twisting, Weaving of Fingers; Activity that has been going on since 2007.
Slapping/Hitting Legs/Feet; Negative. Meaning = Something is Bothering Me!
Hitting Head; Negative. Meaning = I Have a Headache. or I Feel that I Have Not Succeeded. Or I Need to Self-Stimulate My Pleasure Centers. or There are too Many Thoughts Running Through My Head.
Pushing His Drinking Cup to Your Cup (Sometimes Pointing); Positive. Meaning = I Want More Drink Please.
Pointing at Your Plate (Sometimes Touching); Positive. Meaning = I Want Seconds (Thirds).
Open Hand on Throat (with Eye Contact); Positive. Meaning = ??? (New-12 September 2012)
Grabbing Behind Neck; Positive. Meaning = ??? (New-28 September 2012) Laughing and Head Resting on your Shoulder typically associated with the behavior. Sometimes Massaging is Typical.
I am Adding Techniques to this Page as well. Here they are:
Cutting your Male Childs hair Short allows for Relaxation Therapy. By Rubbing the Child Head/Hair when they are Over Stimulated releases Natural Chemicals that Activate the Pleasure Centers and Relaxes the Child.
Keeping an Autistic Child Nails Trimmed also helps the Child. (Not sure how, but it helps)
Helping the Child have a B.M. (Bowel Movement);
1. Giving the Child a Favorite Toy while he/she is on the Toilet Distracts the Child.
2. Giving an Over the Counter Pain Medicine helps Ease the Pain, Curbing the Fear.
3. Giving the Child a Cold Desert after a Warm Meal helps contract the Intestines.
4. An Enima should be the last resort. Though if the Child has not had a B.M. in 5 days, it should be the first thing on your mind. It is Stressful to all concerned, but is a Necessary Evil. Afterwards you can get them on a Routine that makes everyone happy.
Helping the Child Urinate;
1. Running Water.
2. Scratching their Back.
TIPS:
- Add Sleep Aid into Ice-Cream.
- Let the Child Tear/Rip Paper (Slowly) to Relieve Stress.
- Give Child Pain Pills or Sleep Aid Half Hour to Forty-Five Minutes before sitting them on the Toilet. (Reduces the Pain and Makes them Relax)
- Give Child a Favorite Toy to play with while on the Toilet.
- Laughter is the Best Medicine, and if your Child is Laughing while on the Toilet they use their Stomach Muscles which helps them Pass the Stool.
- Re-Direction. If Stephen acts out of character and is Upset, Distract him with something that he likes. Then Later, get him back on Task.
- Soothing Touch. If Stephen acts out of Stress, you can Calm him by Rubbing his head gently and talking calmly to him.
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